The woman in your life...

This is for all the guys and gals out there...

The woman in your life...


Tomorrow you may get a working woman, but you should marry with these facts as well.


Here is a girl, who is as much educated as you are;


Who is earning almost as much as you do;


One, who has dreams and aspirations just as you have because she is as human as you are;


One, who has never entered the kitchen in her life just like you or your
Sister haven't, as she was busy in studies and competing in a system that
gives no special concession to girls for their culinary achievements


One, who has lived and loved her parents & brothers & sisters, almost as
much as you do for 20-25 years of her life;


One, who has bravely agreed to leave behind all that, her home, people who
love her, to adopt your home, your family, your ways and even your family name


One, who is somehow expected to be a master-chef from day #1, while you
sleep oblivious to her predicament in her new circumstances, environment
and that kitchen


One, who is expected to make the tea, first thing in the morning and cook
food at the end of the day, even if she is as tired as you are, maybe more,
and yet never ever expected to complain; to be a servant, a cook, a mother,
a wife, even if she doesn't want to; and is learning just like you are as
to what you want from her; and is clumsy and sloppy at times and knows that
you won't like it if she is too demanding, or if she learns faster than
you;


One, who has her own set of friends, and that includes boys and even men at her workplace too, those, who she knows from school days and yet is willing to put all that on the back-burners to avoid your irrational jealousy,
unnecessary competition and your inherent insecurities;


Yes, she can drink and dance just as well as you can, but won't, simply because you won't like it, even though you say otherwise


One, who can be late from work once in a while when deadlines, just like yours, are to be met;


One, who is doing her level best and wants to make this most important
relationship in her entire life a grand success, if you just help her someand trust her;


One, who just wants one thing from you, as you are the only one she knows
in your entire house - your unstinted support, your sensitivities and most
importantly - your understanding, or love, if you may call it.


But not many guys understand this......


Please appreciate "HER"


I hope you will do....

Goodbye.....Mr APJ Abdul Kalam Sir

"I will go with two small suitcases," said an emotional President A P J Abdul Kalam on Thursday as he prepared to leave Rashtrapati Bhawan with a desire to see India as a developed nation by 2020.

In possibly his last public function as the head of the state, Kalam had an advice for the countrymen -- `don't take gifts that come with a purpose and build families with character and good value system.

"On the 25th I will leave Rashtrapati Bhawan after having spent five glorious years there. What I have got are two small suitcases. I will go with two small suitcases," he said in his address at the India Islamic Cultural Centre.

The statement, that came on a day when polling was held to elect his successor, evoked a huge round of applause.

The President went on to add that besides the two suitcases, he had a big reserve of books that he would be taking with him.

"I will take the books with me. They are my own books," said Kalam, who plans to teach at Anna University, Tamil Nadu, after his tenure is over.

The 75-year-old Scientist-President, who turned philosophical and nostalgic in turns, recalled how his father had taught him not to accept any gifts.

"Yesterday, a well-known person gave me a gift of two pens. I had to return them with unhappiness," he said, also quoting from the ancient Hindu code of law `Manusmriti' that by accepting gifts the divine light in the person gets extinguished.

"I am sharing this thought with all of you since no one should get carried away by any gift which comes with a purpose and through which one loses his personality greatly," he said.

Kalam, who said he visualised India as a developed nation by 2020, hoped it would become a country where economic development was coupled with moral values.

"There are many economically developed nations that are not happy. Since we have a big value system and are blessed with a rich heritage, we can make our country a combination of economic development and moral values that are derived from our civilisation," he said.

"This is how we can build a happy, prosperous and safe India," Kalam said.

He said he visualised an India where the rural and urban divide has been reduced to a thin line, where there is equitable distribution and access to energy and water and where education with value system is not denied to any meritorious candidates because of societal or economic discrimination.

Underlining the importance of respecting all religions, he said he was influenced by all faiths as he grew up.

"Our country has had this advantage of integration of minds for thousands of years and we should continue to nurture this," Kalam said.

President's Race-A loss of face for the nation

The Presidential nomination drama has diminished the Congress’ authority.

All her working political life, Pratibha Patil, likely to become the next President of India and the only woman ever to occupy the post, has used her maiden name. It must, therefore, have been galling for her to hear her former adversary and current supposed benefactor, Sharad Pawar, direct reporters to kindly refer to her as Patil-Shekhawat—because that’s what her name is.

So Patil-Shekhawat will change her name in the service of the nation, adding a caste and patriarchal appellation because it will help her win the election. She has let Sonia Gandhi know that she contested her first election as a Patil and did not change her name after that. The real reason probably is that ‘Shekhawat’ has no resonance in Maharashtra whereas ‘Patil’ might have fetched you some community votes.

After a nondescript political career, during which she did very little to represent women, has the best woman won? And if she does become President, will it be for the right reasons?

More than any other election, this election is a national shame—because it represents everything that is regressive about the Indian system. Patil-Shekhawat is being supported by the Congress for one reason and one reason alone: that she has the right name. That she is uncontroversial and non-threatening is being described in Congress circles as her biggest strength. The Congress did not go out purposefully in search of a qualified, appropriate woman candidate for Presidentship who could become a consensus candidate. They chanced upon Patil-Shekhawat when the Left and the DMK put their foot down and nixed three other names they were offered.

Patil-Shekhawat has an MA and an LLB and she was a practising lawyer in Jalgaon, where she belongs. Combined with 18 years of political experience during which she nearly became chief minister (nearly—she was denied the chance because of Sanjay Gandhi, who preferred a supplicant Muslim in A R Antulay), this is being cited by the Congress as a great achievement by the standards of the 1960s and ‘70s.

Look around you, cry Congress managers. Do you see a woman in the Congress better qualified and more experienced? The urge to retort is strong: and whose fault is that? In the new Goa assembly, there is one woman MLA out of 40. The Maharashtra government does not have a single woman minister.

Patil-Shekhawat’s nomination is also distressing and depressing because it represents double defeat for the Congress. One, the Left and the DMK are now strong enough to turn down not one, not two, but three choices of the Congress for President.

Shivraj Patil’s nomination was rejected by the Left not because they wanted a woman. It was rejected because they considered the home minister as being communal and incompetent. One could ask how they can hold this view and still shore up the government. One must also marvel at the home minister’s capacity to absorb humiliation silently.

But more than that, it says something about the leadership in the Congress today. Indira Gandhi may have had the numbers but there were times she was at war with her own party. Would she, as a leader of the party, have tolerated any section of the Left dictating to her and humiliating her colleagues as it has done today?

What little the Left did not do, the Congress leadership did itself. Pranab Mukherjee was moved from defence to external affairs, because he is efficient; and denied a chance at Rashtrapati Bhavan because he is too efficient. The trust deficit between him and 10 Janpath is now so well-known that the water carriers in the AICC talk about it.

In order to buttress the case against him, Congress managers say he was not elevated because the Left canvassed for him too enthusiastically. There are also suggestions that he orchestrated the campaign himself. This is totally untrue, but it appears to have caught the imagination of the Congress President.

If a Presidential election is about give and take—in power politics, in policy, as a bonding force—the Congress has resoundingly lost the game. It has just given, got nothing in return. The Left and the DMK have demonstrated they have the power of veto—indeed, Karunanidhi is going to return to Tamil Nadu and boast that it was he who installed a woman President in Rashtrapati Bhavan, when the Congress was getting ready to put in place a man who couldn’t control law and order.

And the Congress? Instead of extracting parliamentary assurances on various legislative and reform measures from the Left in return for keeping the home minister out of Rashtrapati Bhavan, the party has quietly succumbed to pressure with nothing to show for it.

The 2007 Presidential election is going to be an exciting one. But is it going to be one that helps get glory for the Congress? Not hardly likely. Was it an interesting read??? do post ur comments... thanks,,,